Writing - An Art of Patience

Have you ever seen a little kid write? They speed through in order to get to their favorite part - writing the words THE END. Often those two words take on such meaning that they cover all the remaining space on their paper. I've seen young writers spend more time writing The End then they did writing the rest of their words.

One of my first jobs working with third grade writers? Making sure they never write The End again.

Writing is a process. A process that takes a very, very, very long time. From idea to completion can take weeks, months, even years. And when you want to be a published writer, not only are you waiting for yourself, you wait for a lot of others.

Waiting for your critique group to finish their critique.
Waiting for an agent to respond to your query with a request.
Waiting for response to your partial or full.
Waiting for an agent to say "yes."
Waiting for your contract.
Waiting to share the news.
Waiting for your agent's editorial letter.
Waiting for your agent to tell you you're ready for submission.
Waiting for editors to respond to submissions.
Waiting for an editor to say "yes."
Waiting for your contract.
Waiting to share the news.
Waiting for your editor's editorial letter.
Waiting for your editor to accept your revisions.
Waiting for that final book birthday that turns you from writer to published author.

Is your head spinning? Mine is.

My point and my advice, learn patience. And make sure to find a group of writers to support you through this process. You will be doing a lot of waiting, but waiting is a lot more fun when you are waiting with friends.

Blog post update: My friend, the talented author Sarah Darer Littman, recently sent me a song to get me through the waiting. Here it is:

Spring Cleaning

It's Spring, which means it's time for Spring cleaning. While I'm cleaning out the closets and shelves for the things I don't use anymore, I've decided it may also be time to clean the messiest area in my world - my document folders.

I'll admit it - when it comes to drafts I am a hoarder. I'm pretty sure I still have every version of every story I've ever written. Each time I think of deleting a document or throwing out a hard copy I hesitate. What if I need an idea from it later on? 

I'm getting to a point where the drafts have become meaningless. I have so many versions I wouldn't even know where to look for an old idea. 

Hmm. Maybe I don't need to delete them, I just need a better filing system!

What do you think? Should I continue hoarding or press delete? What do you do?

Productive Praise

Some writers keep their words to themselves until that first draft is written. I take the opposite approach. When I am dreaming up a new idea or getting started on a project, I talk, I share, I expose myself to criticism. 

I need feedback. I want to know how other people experience my words. I don't necessarily change based on criticism, but I store the feedback and evaluate it, and use it when it fits. 

But sometimes, especially now that I am at the end of a project, I don't mind it when a critique partner says, "You did a great job, Stacy and, based on the journey I've been with you in the various incarnations of this story, you have become a fine writer." No comments in the margins, no red marks, no suggestions. Just a bit of support to think back on as we start to put this story out into the world. 

At a recent workshop I attended on giving feedback, we discussed the merit of the words, "Great job." Do they really mean anything? But if those words come after months (or years) of watching a manuscript grow from an idea to a truly completed piece, I think saying, "Great job," isn't just okay, it's productive. It means that after all the toil and strife, you've finally gotten it right. That's helpful to know too. After all, as writers we have it in us to revise forever. At some point we need that great job to help us put the work down.

What do you think of the words, "Great job?" What kind of feedback do you like to get on your writing?